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Up in Arms About What Men Want in a Woman?

Sure...men want sex. But it's not all he wants, not by a long shot. This misconception about men has a tight grip on the thinking of far too many women. What men want is rather simple though, that's the good news. What many women find very challenging is accepting the truth about what men want in a woman. There are tremendous benefits for all women who learn what a healthy man wants in his relationship with her.

Happy wife, happy life. The happiness of his wife is the key measurement a man uses to determine how well he's doing as a mate. Simple enough. But what if his wife isn't happy? What if she is pretty happy about a lot of things that are happening for her, but fails to share many of the details with him? Many women find this fact of life regarding men to be unsettling. They have a lot more control in their relationship than they feel comfortable with. With power comes responsibility. That can sometimes seem like too much pressure.

If his wife continues to be unhappy for a prolonged period of time, it's common for the husband to stop trying to please her. This is the same if she is happy yet fails to tell him specifically what she's happy about. He will withdraw into other activities that he can be successful at. The task of keeping his wife happy is something he believes he is failing at.

Happy is what a man wants his girlfriend or wife to be. Happy with the job he's doing as a husband.

But what if the woman doesn't know what she wants to accomplish with her life?

Here we have a deeper problem that needs resolution. For many women, this is an area that has gotten pushed to the side in the rush of a busy life. Having clarity about your dreams and aspirations is essential so you can convey them to your husband. If your husband can't get a clear picture of what makes you happy, he is likely to stop trying to help. It's like trying to hit a target that's always moving or running a race where the finish line is always changing.

That's certainly a recipe for relationship ruin.

The process of figuring out what you want to do with your life, is an on-going process that evolves over time. It's not a test. There is no passing or failing grade.

The dating process can also go more smoothly if this work has been done. You'll be better equipped to find a match because you've thought through what's important to you. If you're vague about yourself while dating, you're more likely to attract men who lack clear direction.